Nadine on…Co-dependence

  

An Elephant named ‘Co-Dependence’
There is this elephant in the room. And his name is Co-Dependence.
He’s standing right there! I can’t believe you don’t seem him. He is toxic to you. 

At first, no one really notices him, because initially he’s kinda small. He’s sneaky like that. He just sits there all cute-like there while everyone tip toes around him. 

As he feeds on insecurities and pain he begins to grow a little each day. Like all baby ‘anythings’ he gets bigger. And bigger. 

Kind of like when you start to get a little fat. The pounds add on a little each day and you hardly notice them. Until the scale tops the high end and you suddenly wake up and none of your pants fit! 

Just like your pants the elephant named Co-Dependence gets too big for his britches. It’s too late when you realize it. He is huge!!! And he is manipulative. As everyone, not just you, moves towards the walls in order to squeak past. He continues to grow a little bit each day. 

What began as a seemingly harmless creature of comfort has once again become a very large problem. He is a problem and you can’t breathe again because you are pressed to the walls. You find yourself in a place where you NEED him but you no longer want him. Co-dependence consumes you. Consumes your life. 

You know what you need to do. 

You need to shoot the elephant. No one else can shoot him for you. Life will hand you the bazooka fully loaded but it’s your job to pull the trigger. 

Get off the hamster wheel. Admit there is a problem. 

Go find your peace. 

And don’t ever go back. 

Independence is worth a whole lot more in the long run. 

Independently yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world!

Nadine On…the girl with the red pen

  
The girl with the red pen. Remember the girl with the red pen in school? You traded your spelling paper with her. And she had a red pen. She bled all over your paper.

I hate that girl!

I hate that girl with the red pen. Everybody hates that girl. They don’t want to trade papers with her. They don’t want to sit by her at lunch. They don’t want to play with her at recess. They don’t want to invite her to their birthday parties.

Don’t be that girl. 

Seriously. 

Yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world

Coffee Talk with Nadine

  
Step children are hard. Ok…if we’re being honest here let’s face it they are down right difficult. For those that have them I know you can relate. For those that don’t well La-De-Insert expletative-Da!
Jose and I made a pact early on…I would handle my dysfunctional Ex and difficult children and he would handle his. It’s worked pretty well so far. There has been peace in the Trailer Park. 

Until now. 

I made the mistake of trying to reach out. Trying, too hard I might add, to help my sweet Baboo to repair a bridge that had been long neglected. I repeat, I made the mistake. 

Conflagration. 

It’s burnt pretty well to a crisp. Sorta like last nights last gluten free pancake. 

I got distracted on the phone with Mawdine and burned that puppy to a crisp!

Gluten free…shades of clean eating. But that’s another blog post. 

Back to the story. Step-kids. I’ve had my share. Some have been easy. Thank you favorite son. And some have been difficult. 

I can’t deal.

All I can do is be as good of a Trailer Park wife to Jose’ as I possibly can. 

At least they can’t complain about that. 

Life isn’t perfect. It’s got it’s share of hiccups. We will get through this together. Cause we told them all in the beginning…it’s y’all against US! And we are going on 9 years strong. 

Exes, Kids and Step-Kids will come and go. 

But Nadine and Jose’ stand strong hand in hand in the Trailer Park. 

Evil Wickedly Step-Motherly yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world

Nadine on…R-E-S-P-E-C-T

It is far too easy to confuse approval with respect. And almost impossible to please All of the people All of the time.

Just because someone approves of your actions does not mean they respect you for them. 

Respect is something that is earned. Over time.

Approval is too often times dolled out in wash tubs full by people who are “like minded.” They approve of you and your actions because they too are seeking your approval for theirs. Doesn’t make them right. 

I know because I spent the first 40 years seeking the approval of others. Then either through hormones or an Ephiphany I just stopped caring. Respect became more important than approval. 

Respect is the by-product of pleasing God and approving yourself. It is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by abilities, qualities or achievements. 

I hope when I depart that I am respected and admired more than approved of. The qualities I hold near and dear like loyalty, honesty, commitment and trust are the legacy I hope to elicit from others memories of me. Not approval. 

It’s not that I’m mean. I just truly don’t care about approval. Ambivalence at its finest. 

But I do care about respect. 

And praise. Don’t forget to praise one another. Show and speak gratitude. 

Give respect and praise to those around you for their accomplishments…and forgiveness for their shortcomings. 

Respectfully yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world

Nadine’s Top Ten reasons why 2015 was a good year

  

#10 ~ Relocated the HFTP to the beach! With my sweet Baboo

#9 ~ Landed new job within 3 days of Jose’s new job offer so that we could live in the same town

#8 ~ Had a blast with my Cousins down for Lone Star Rally

#7 ~ Made friends with some amazing neighbors

#6 ~ Found great little church to plug in to

#5 ~ Not debt free but much closer to a debt free retirement

#4 ~ Still live within 5 minutes of a Whataburger in Texas!

#3 ~ Completed Book 3 of a 7 book series

#2 ~ I’m NOT pregnant

And the Number One good thing about 2015 is that by God’s glory and grace we get to move on to 2016 with fresh new ideas for self improvement and personal growth! 

And all God’s people said…Amen. 

Yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 

Coffee talk with Nadine

Yesterday at work I received news I wasn’t planning on receiving. I felt very discouraged and mad at a system I have little control over. The political-ness of it left me heart broken. I tried on my own to solve it. Make sense of it. Even vented a little.

Situation Normal AFU. 
And the beat goes on. 
I turned to the index of my bible for an answer. Looking up the word discouraged led me to a dead end. So I did a 180 and looked up “courage” instead. 

What I found was a very old familiar verse that lifted me out of the ugliness and mucky-ness of the situation. 

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 13:6

I read that a yielded heart does not whine or rebel when the going gets tough. Instead it musters the courage to thank Him even in hard times. In doing so, we exhibit trust. I am thankful for my job. And hopeful I can find another avenue. 

Score settled. No need to worry about That anymore. 

Be strong. Be of good courage. Do not fear. 

All directives I can live with. 

Strong, courageous and fearlessly yours, 

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 

NaNoWriMo

  

It’s here! That wonderful time of the year where writers and authors all over the planet take a stab at 50,000 words in 30 days! And I’m pumped to try my hand and my heart at book 3 in a 7 book series. 

After officially signing off of social media with the exception of the Daily Mantra or Coffee Talk with Nadine it’s off to the races. 

This year will be more daunting than the last two because #1 we are back in country and I have a full time job and #2 my husband will be at home instead of out of town working. 

I remain hopeful that 50,000 words will be put to page. Thankful for my trusty word processor I will make giant leaps in the writing and editing departments. 

Now to engage my brain.

Novelly yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world