Just your average day at the office…Slime, psychotic episodes and baby ducks

History…the Librarians have had the Science classes in all week making slime.

E: “So honey, how was your day?”

Me: “It was great! I was standing at my post in the middle of the bleachers with my sophomores during the pep rally and was hit in the head. It first felt like a water bottle…half full of water. A plastic-kind of feeling. Immediately I put my hand to the back of my head anticipating a wet, slimy grossness…but nothing. My hair was dry.”

Time for the class yell… “V-I-C-T-O-R-Y! THATS THE SOPHOMORE BATTLE CRY!”

“As I looked down in the bleachers to my right there it was. A purple slime filled condom! Bwahahaha I could hardly breathe I was laughing so hard!”

“I did the John Belushi and tried to locate the ‘arm’…but they all looked like the Toy Story characters…frozen in place.

Faces totally stoic. Looking straight ahead.

So I turned around and jumped back into the pep rally. Minutes later I look down to my right again and I see another slime-filled condom. Only this one is blue!!!

I pretend I don’t see it until a boy tries to sneak past me and sit near them. One stern look in his direction and a thumbed gesture to get out of there and he moves back from whence he came.

A few more minutes and I bend down and casually pick them both up. Behind me I hear a loud Ooooooo!!! Grosssss!!! So I shake them at them and pretend that I will throw them back…they all duck and try to hide behind the other kids.

So I put them in the pocket of my jacket.

Later, after the pep-rally, I take the slime-filled to the Librarians who absolutely crack up!

Still giggling, I walk back to my classroom with my colleague, we hear someone screaming like they have been shot! We break out in a full run and round the corner to find three cops and a VP carrying a student into a classroom! What?! WHAT?!

Psychotic episode. Nothing to see here folks. Keep walking….O……K…..?

And then driving out of the gate…I see these guys! 10 of them and their Momma. Made my whole week!”

E: “Sounds like a great day babe. Wanna order a pizza and binge watch This Is Us?”

Yep!

Nadine on…Perfecting the Art Of Professionally Going to Hell and Back

So…there is this little problem at work. Read Island. Read Mountain I cannot go over, around, through or under. Read impasse. However you read it…it’s a very real thing.

Not my first rodeo.

Considering myself as a master of Conflict Resolution both personally and professionally I am still really stumped this time.

I have prayed about it. Talked with my personal and professional mentors about it. And of course I have talked to Jose’ about it. And I’ve got nothing. Until the epiphany this morning at 0401 a.m.

I blame Keto for this new found insomnia.

Seems I no longer need 9 hours of sleep anymore because my body only wants 6. Tell my brain. Anyway, I digress.

This is not the First time I have encountered a professional situation that can most possibly be best described as an old fashioned personality conflict. And once again, it is not ME who is the one conflicted. Once again I find myself the object of the conflict. And again…still…it is due to a lack of education on the part of others and a fundamental problem I call ‘professional envy.’ And trust me, that monster is green and ugly.

What to do? How about…do what you have done in the past?…if it worked.

Well, so far here is what I have done and the advice I have received:

1- Pray about it. While it may be working…it’s Not really working. Conflict still exists. And in my humble opinion it’s getting worse. But I will keep praying.

2- I tried the ever faithful ‘Kill them with Kindness’. Definitely.Not.Working.

3- Read a book about conflict resolution. Yup! Read Difficult Conversations (Stone/Patton/Herb) AND How to Win Friends and Influence People (Carnegie). Obviously these people know what they are doing. And the advice and information has been helpful…but the conflict still exists.

4- Take a class! Currently enrolled in a district-wide 5 session workshop. Not ‘really’ helping. But I have met and networked with some pretty cool people!

5- Neither has the age old avoidance technique…you live on your Island and I’ll live on mine…isn’t working either.

Because this time my Administration insists on us working together. But we vibrate at very different frequencies. Collaborative assignments just aren’t getting done.

6- Talking with Admin to get wisdom and advice on how to proceed left me with “Let me take it to a higher level and I’ll get back to you.” No resolution or feedback to date.

So now what? Well here is the what.

Daddy always said when faced with a problem you have but 3 solutions. One, stay and do nothing. Two, stay and do something. Three, leave.

So far doing number one did not work. In an attempt to avoid the easiest and quickest route to number three I am going to try number two. Why? Because I LOVE ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING ELSE ABOUT MY JOB!

My plan for the week is to talk about it. Speak directly to the elephant in the room. Set up Norms and relationship boundaries. Open dysfunctional communications. Even if it’s just a window. Make a plan for weekly communication opportunities. Do the work of repairing the disconnect. Stay optimistic. Share all of my good energy that I can with as many people as I can. That’s the plan.

I’ll let y’all know how it works out.

Conflictingly yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 🌎☮️❤️🚋

Nadine on…a brand new season

Is it just me?

Even before I started teaching…every year, about this time, I start to regroup. I get past the seasonal thought that…OK! School has started back and I should be back in the groove. But, every year, I am not. I go in and out of the groove and it’s always a tad jerky.

By now I am feeling that life should be routine. It ‘should’ feel normal. Flow like a smooth quiet stream on its way to the holidays full of fun, family, friends and fellowship…and then. WHAM! It hits me smack in the face…that quiet, small, smooth flowing stream is picking up steam! It just got wider. It is more like a river at this point. The pace is getting faster! But I don’t want it to get faster. I just wanna coast along. Smoothly. Like a stream. I don’t want a river. I didn’t buy into this river idea. I’d like my stream back please. I think the recruiter lied!

I drag my paddle in the water in an attempt to slow the pace.

Doesn’t work.

About the time I realize that…it’s.not.working…I look up and out ahead in the water. I see a big stick in the water…paddle now. Paddle will ya?! Getting closer I see it’s not a stick, it’s a whole tree! Divert! Avert! Paddle harder, the current is sweeping me, not the other way around.

Best I can do is lean. And paddle.

Hard!

Trying to think fast on my feet. Ok…think smart. Work smart not hard…to ‘steer’ with the paddle. Focus! Just don’t ‘hit’ the tree.

Or worse. Capsize!

Moving towards survival mindset now. What’s best? Jump and risk swimming to the shore? Maybe drown from the undertow? Lose the boat? Hit the tree and risk damaging the boat? I decide to keep paddling like hell? Do whatever I can to miss the tree.

But I’m already paddling as fast and hard as I possibly can. And I am wearing out. I am tired. Weary.

But hey! Look up! There are some other people in the boat with me. Why didn’t I see them before? Where was my focus? Switch focus. Hand them a paddle. Ask for their help. Good idea! 💡

I’m going to be ok. We are going to be ok.

It may be a new season. And there may be hiccups and whole trees in the way. And I can go through this. With a little help I will move on down the river…that will once again become a stream.

Paddling like hell…

Yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 🌎☮️❤️🚋

Nadine on…Abundance

Waking up in Abundance

“I’ve learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.” ~ Martha Washington

It’s easy to focus on the ‘what I don’t haves’ than to focus on the ‘what I haves.’ Isn’t it? It’s easier to walk in misery than to be happy. Or is it?

It seems like it is the human condition coupled with the media blasting us all. the. time…to remind us of what it is we don’t have but that we surely MUST need. Because, hey! Look at this guy or that gal who have so very much more than us. That little green monster takes over more times than we might wish.

Ads everywhere you look! The obvious, television. And of course television’s cousins, magazines and newspapers…does anyone really read newspapers anymore? I miss those days for sure. But who has time to read a newspaper cover to cover save retired folk? The news we now get is shoved down our throats through the propagandized and dreaded email, and social media’s like Twitter and Fakebook.

And the main message is ‘You NEED this!’

It seems we cannot look anywhere without being marketed. We want. We want! WE WANT!

But take a giant Mother-may-I step back for a minute with me, will you?…We have.

We have so very much. We have so much that so many others don’t have.

We have in Abundance! That is my favorite word. Abundance.

To live free has a value beyond price.

To have an education, a job, be a home owner, have a soft comfortable bed to sleep in, someone (or something) that moves against you while you sleep?!!! All that…and a bag of chips.

I wake up feeling gratitude each and every day. Because I have trained my mind to do so. I have made up my mind to wake up grateful and happy in My Trailer Park.

It hasn’t always been that way though. For many seasons in my life, I woke up crying in my beer. Life was not what I thought it was supposed to be. Hiccups were plenty. And I just didn’t have enough I thought. I wanted so much more and I felt empty because it just wasn’t there.

But it was. It was there all along. But I was too blind to see it because I was too busy being washed by the blood of ‘I have not.’

Truly…we all have. We have everything we need. Just maybe not everything we want.

Cheryl Crow said it best I think in her song lyrics, Soak Up The Sun…”It’s not having what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got.”

So change your mindset. Look for the gratitude in each and every moment. And don’t ever forget, someone, somewhere has so much less.

Abundantly & Graciously yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 🌎☮️❤️🚋

Nadine’s Free Advice Friday ~ 08/24/18 Parenting 101: What to Teach your children

(ok a day late Saturday because…THIS week!!!)

**WARNING**

**Trailer Park Language**

Parents…consider this a PSA in addition to free advice. First off y’all are doing a great job! Ok…maybe not all of y’all…but most of you.

A+ for your efforts. Kudos.

But! If we are gonna achieve our mutual goal and get these little heathens, um, I mean, children of yours graduated from high school we are going to have to collaborate and work together in this whole teaching gig.

If you haven’t crossed this video yet, please do us all a favor and click the link to watch it to see ‘this’ teachers favorite Momma.

https://youtu.be/OWF3YT8sRH8

Second PSA…Parents buy the fucking pencils and the yellow binder. Whatever is on the list! Write your Thank You NOW! And hug a teacher. Just hug them. Because they need it.

We all know they watch every move we make. They mimic every behavior we model. They learn from our ques. Because believe it or not, if they are seven or seventeen we are still everything to them.

Teach your children to be agreeable. Teach flexibility. Teach them to go with the flow sometimes. Ok?…most of the time. The school day is not the time to swim upstream. They are not salmon.

Teach your children to be collaborative. Teach them ability to work well with others, to accept their quirky-ness and flaws and still get the job done. Model that shit ok?

Teach your children to be inclusive and to play well with others and teach them to sit with them during lunch and any other time. Mainly teach them to not let others sit alone.

Teach them NOT to talk back. I always told my little Dramamine it is ok to question authority…but don’t be an ass about it. Don’t let them grow up in your house and be little Sassholes. Because if you don’t discipline them for this…I will. That crap might be cute when they are 2 or 3, but at age 17 it is no longer cute. Trust me…your Sasshole kid is gonna get knocked into next week with my Chancla stick.

Teach peace.

Teach them to be kind.

Teach them to be excellent.

Teach them to be weird, funny, quiet, smart, athletic, theatre, numbers, teachers pet, chatterbox, Valedictorian, middle of the pack, and ‘barely made it.’

Teach them.

Just don’t teach them wrong.

And for all that is holy and sacred in this world…please don’t teach them to be mean.

It’s FREE! As in No Charge. Nada. Doesn’t cost you one single thing. As head Queen of the Trailer Park and the Self-Appointed Life Coach to many, this is just another service I provide. A quick reminder last week’s advice was: Parenting Advice: Empty Nesters. Do please go read, like and share as you see fit.

Advisingly yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 🌎☮️❤️�

To eat…or not to eat? That IS the question.

A mere 6 months ago when I first started the keto diet I did not understand what true hunger was. It was a learning curve over the next few months. It wasn’t until I was 30, 60, 90 days in that my ‘lack of appetite’ met my truck-driver-homegirl’s-gotta-eat mentality. I was a happy camper eating everything in the trailer park whenever I wanted.

I had to learn again what it truly felt like to ‘feel’ hungry.

For far too long I ate on a time clock. If it was breakfast time, lunchtime or supper time…I ate whether I was hungry or not. It was ‘Time’ to eat. And eat a lot I did!

Now, however, Jose’ and I have been doing Keto Intermittent Fasting and rarely feel true hunger but maybe once a day. Intermittent Fasting (IF), for the lay person, is eating in a window of time that is offset by a prolonged time of not eating. We fast for 16 hours and try to eat only in the remaining 8 hour window; usually between 10:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m. Because we go to bed with the chickens eating supper early is our goal. And no, you will not starve; but you WILL lose weight.

So what do we do if we are not hungry, but it’s that 8-hour window?!!! Don’t we ‘have’ to eat something? No. We don’t. Mind you this does not occur every day. But when it does…we just don’t eat.

Other days, I feel like I am eating all day. My stomach rumbles and I feed it. And I know that it will all balance out.

We still maintain our healthier weights.

And we honor our bodies when they tell us to eat…or not.

Not surprising this is a very common Keto phenomenon among Keto eaters.

I am not that I’ve-got-to-eat-because-it’s-time-to-eat person anymore. I just feed my body when I am hungry…or not.

And now for the license disclosure…because I am a nurse and not licensed to prescribe a diet or any medications for you the information provided is purely my and my husband’s own personal success. It is never a bad idea to check with a licensed provider prior to embarking on any weight loss plan. Just know that the medical community has literally a thimble full of information about Keto and will stand firm on their food pyramid of the last 25 years! However, their evidence-based research should be enough to turn anyone away from it to explore something new.

Ketoly yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 🌎☮️❤️🚋

Nadine on…Classroom Management and the First Day of School

**Warning Trailer Park Language**

It was a dark and stormy night…at the Walmart…a little over a year ago when this fantastic opportunity fell in my lap!

I had the privilege to encounter a woman at the Walmart who gave me her testimony. As it poured outside, she poured out her passionate heart about the career option of teaching. She told me they were looking for people like ‘Me’ to teach Health Science to high schoolers. Equipped with a doctorate in biology and previously working as a research scientist, she told me about Texas Teachers and how much she loved her job as a teacher.

We now affectionately refer to her as the Walmart Lady.

After the frog strangler passed, I went home from the Walmart full of excitement and renewed interest. As I search the Texas Teachers website and read about the qualifications, I became overjoyed with the thought of the challenge to be a teacher. I had no idea what I was getting myself and Jose’ into. And I much did not care…because I was drowning in a job I detested.

I had a teaching job within 10 days!

That first year was a wild and crazy ride with a LOT of personal and professional hiccups and growth opportunities.

But I am happy to report that landmark first year is in the rear view mirror.

I went to a few classes this summer and I am looking forward to doing things a whole lot differently this year. And better!

For starters I have already laid down the law with my Chancla Stick. Trust me…this bad boy is gonna be a Teacher’s Best Friend!

The instructions said all you have to do is slap it on the table to get their attention…you know…get that threat in early on the first day of school! Worth a try!

I also learned it helps to tell them that everything they heard about you is right. You are crazy. Helps to set them up for a real roller coaster ride!

And sarcasm…it’s truly a wonder to behold. In teacher school they say you shouldn’t use it in the classroom. I sooooo disagree. We all know there is the Teacher School way of doing things and doing things out here in the real world! They failed to tell us in teacher school that ‘Well-Played Sarcasm’ is a VERY useful teaching tool. It makes the kids feel like they are being entertained! And they keep coming back for more. I actually learned that technique in college from a professor…Thank you Dr. Jim Nairne, PhD.

Another little useful invention for Classroom Management comes in a tiny plastic package. It’s called a Zip Tie or Tie Wrap! Not only are they useful to mend a broken backpack, purse or lunch kit…but they come in extra handy as a temporary restraint! Quickly cuts off with a pair of pocket scissors if an administrator happens to stroll through the building!

Also, this past year while observing another teacher, I learned the fine art of whispering. As I saw a student acting out the teacher calmly went over to the student, bent down and whispered, “If you don’t stop that now I am going to kill you!”…I think I already have a bead on three or four kids I’m gonna try that on.

And kudos to those favorite teacher’s Mommas…not that I expect to have any this year…but in case I do…here is a video of the model favorite teacher Momma!!!

https://youtu.be/OWF3YT8sRH8

So parents…Do please write those thank you notes in advance…

Hug a teacher!..

And buy the fucking pencils and the yellow binder!

Don’t worry…your kids are safe with me! I’ve got them managed.

Classroom Managingly yours,

Nadine Bodine

Your VERY Best friend in the whole wide world 🌎☮️❤️🚋